Creative Blog Tour

by Dian Reid-Jancic· Follow Dian on

I’ve been invited to go “on tour” and you’re coming with me!

I learned about The Creative Blog Tour from Kelly Gill, who’s taken her own blog on tour right here. What’s this tour all about? Well, let’s find out together!

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What are you working on now?

Creative Process - Writing - Coming Out GuideI feel like I’m always working on something, it’s the finishing that doesn’t always get done. As for the question, the prominent thing I’m working on is a guide to coming out of the closet for lesbians and their friends and family. In my own coming out process I struggled with wanting to do everything right, and not knowing what “doing it right” looked like. I’ve learned over the years that it’s different for each person, but there are similarities across the board.

Everyone goes through some sort of coming out process when they come out of the closet. The circumstances may be different, but the process and many of the emotions are the same. My community is extremely important to me because it’s like the family I no longer have. Much of my family is no longer alive and I’ve made a conscious decision to build a “new” family with good friends, conversation, and support. Everyone deserves this (or at least the opportunity to choose what their support system looks like), and this guide to coming out is designed to help lesbians understand themselves better through the coming out process, and then make healthy decisions about who and what they want in and as their support system.

How is your work unique?

In this world nothing is really new, is it? So making my work unique is as simple as putting my own spin on whatever it is I’m working on. So this guide to coming out isn’t necessarily ground-breaking, but it’s got a special flavor to it that makes it unique—especially to those who are coming out and are looking for guidance as they move through their process. The guide has come to me through my own experiences and the stories of my lesbian friends and family. It’s got my heart in it, which is a big part of what makes my work unique.

Why do you write/create what you do?

When I came out of the closet I felt like I had to figure everything out on my own. I didn’t know there were Gay and Lesbian Centers, I didn’t know there was PFLAG, I didn’t know if I knew anyone personally who was gay or lesbian. Times have changed since I came out in the late 90’s, with social media and the internet, in general, but there are still people out there who don’t know that they can come out on their own terms. I want other lesbians to know that they’re not alone in their experience.

Everything I write and create is about offering perspective on the experiences we share in life. Each experience is unique because it’s our own, but there are always parts of others’ experiences we can relate to.

Sometimes it’s the circumstances we can relate to, but more often it’s the emotions we feel when we move through these experiences that have us relate to one another. And that relationship is important. It makes us feel less alone in this big world that can sometimes seem like it’s against us.

Simply put, I believe I was put on this earth to relate to others and help them relate to themselves.

How does your creative process work?

My creative process is a mixed bag of tricks—tricks I’m not even sure I understand completely. The parts I do understand involve commitment. Commitment to allow the creative process to work its mojo, rather than me *trying* to be creative.

If I’m committed to truly being creative, I’m writing on a consistent basis. I’m most creative when I’m writing, but only after I’ve burned through the fluff and gotten to the nitty gritty. Once I really get going, I allow myself to get lost in my thoughts. I allow myself to go down this rabbit hole and that one. And when I come to the end of the succession of rabbit holes in the process (who knows how many there will be, the number is different every time), I have to leave space to allow my creative brain to tie them all together.

Sometimes that space is just a few minutes, and sometimes it’s a few days or weeks. Which is why being consistent is important. If I’m not consistently writing, there’s too much space between the rabbit holes and they get lost in themselves, leaving me and my creative self no chance at all to catch up.

At the heart of it, my creative process is really about consistency and letting go, and writing is the process for both of those things. And rabbit holes, of course.

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As I wrote this piece I found myself procrastinating, even to the point of just saying, fuck it, what’s the point now? I believe this is part of the creative process, as well. The creative process wants you to fight for it. It wants you to drag yourself through the mud and the muck every now and then just to prove your love for and commitment to it.

If the creative process were a real person, we’d have broken up long ago. But it’s not, and here we are. Some days it’s easy, some days it’s hard. But in the end, it’s always worth it.

I suppose that’s the sign of a good relationship, anyway. You just have to pay attention to one another often enough to notice.

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  • Oh, Commitment. That’s something I struggle with daily. More often than not – regarding my writing – the gremlins come a callin’ and my belief in myself and my writing begins to waver, and I end up with the “fuck-its”, so I can relate to your procrastination, here. But just like the stories in your Coming Out Guide, your story and your emotion behind your process has made me feel a little less alone in my struggle in this blogging sphere. Thank you for sharing, Dian.

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