The One Thing

by Dian Reid-Jancic· Follow Dian on

The whole thing came about because I was struggling with life. Feeling like I had nothing to say to anyone that could possibly be taken as good advice, helpful words, or meaningful in any way.

Then, a question: “If you were left with nothing and no one, what single quality do you have that no one can take away from you?” 

Grit“Grit,” I said, and began to feel more alive and worthy, just saying it. “It’s not that I enjoy the fight,” I continued, “but knowing that I’ll always be alive on the other side of it that turns me on.”

We all get in a place where life throws a crap sandwich at us, and usually when we’re not looking, so we take it square in the nose, just as we’re turning to see what it is. Break-ups. Car accidents. Lay offs. Deaths. Milk spilling. Soup burning. Other shoes dropping like hotcakes.

Shit happens.

It’s not the first time, and it’s not going to be the last, so how do you deal with life and her rude crap sandwiches?

I recently read a wonderful post by writer, coach, and all-around wonderful woman Julie Jordan Scott  that reminded me of three very important steps when life changes on you:

  1. Be conscious
  2. Move
  3. Choose

Being Conscious

Consciousness is a key element in change. When something changes, it’s a great opportunity to be conscious of the space we have just moved out of. What was it like back there? What were you happiest about? What will you miss the most? What would you change, if given the opportunity? What is the learning you want to take away from this change?


Whether you like it or not, movement is an inherent part of change. And since we know that a body in motion stays in motion, doesn’t it make sense to keep on moving? Move away from the crap sandwich, I mean. It can be so tempting to sit and stew about whatever went wrong, about whoever caused the ruckus in your life. Don’t do it; move on. You have better things to do than live in the past … like choose what’s next for you.


You may not have had a choice in the events that brought you to this moment in your life (although in some cases, I suspect we had more choice than we care to admit), but what you do have a choice about is this moment in your life. What do you want for yourself in this moment? What changes are you willing to make in order to create what you want for yourself? What choices can you make that will make this moment in your life better for you?


When you’ve asked yourself all of these questions and come up with some sort of answers for yourself, I have one final question for you:

If you were left with nothing and no one, what single quality do you have that no one can take away from you?

Me, I have grit. I know I’ll be alive on the other side of this crap sandwich. What do you have?

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Devon January.28.2013 at 8.18 am

I’ve been thinking a lot about this as I commonly joke I have no tangible survival skills like first aid, or building something. I don’t knit or sew or know how to build a fire. So, I often wonder what that one thing is. I’m working on a blog post about this but I think I would say, storyteller.

Dian Reid January.30.2013 at 12.31 pm

I love it (probably because I’m a storyteller, too). Such a valuable skill to have. I mean, when you think about it, it’s how we learn so many things in life … from the stories we tell each other and ourselves, from the stories we hear from others. I can’t wait to read your post, Devon 🙂

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