Reverb 10: Community.

by Dian Reid-Jancic· Follow Dian on

Where have you discovered community, online or otherwise, in 2010?

What community would you like to join, create or more deeply connect with in 2011?

~ Cali Harris

Community, now.

Because of Best 09, I was able to connect with an amazing community of women. I even got a chance to meet up with a few of them over the course of the year, whether live via phone or live and in person. What started out as a way to get my blogging on a roll, turned into an unexpected kinship of kindred spirits.

This community is sacred to me, and I expect to cherish it for many years to come, whether we stay in contact or not (of course, I hope we will).

Community, next.

The gay community. My gay community.

This is who I want to engage more with this coming year. We’re awesome. We’re smart. We’re funny. We’re successful. We’re brilliant. We’re athletic. We’re beautiful. We’re studious. We’re here, and we’re staying.

I love our way of sticking together, even in the smallest situations. A sly look of acknowledgment when walking down a random street, just to let the other know we know. And that we’re here, too.

I want to be recognizable as a lesbian to all of my own kind. I want a gay woman—even with broken gaydar—to know I’m her people. Know that I’m here for her. Know that I’m openly out. Know that I’m openly human. Know that I’m on her side. Know that I support the people in my community, even if I don’t know all of us.

This isn’t about standing out. I’m not that kind of girl, anyway. It’s about connecting kindred spirits simply because we share similarities we have no control over.

This coming year I want to connect with women all over the country who are gay and proud. I want to connect with women all over the country who are gay and strong. I want to connect with women all over the country who are gay and scared. Gay and hurting. Gay and hiding. Gay and wondering. Gay and human. I want to connect with this entire community of women.

Even in our weakness, we are strong. Even when we don’t see it in ourselves. Even when we don’t believe in the goodness in our hearts because we’re looking through the blacked-out glasses of those around us who choose to see a world with only them and their kind in it.

Even in our questioning, there are things we know deep in our souls about life. Things like: closed, dark closets are scary. Things like: judgment hurts. Things like hatred is crap. Things like: love is more universal than music. Things like: kindness breeds kindness. Things like: acceptance is cool. Things like: we’re all human on the inside. Things like: we’re all human on the outside, too. Things like: we are stronger than me.

I want to connect with that community. If it’s not there, I want to create it. I want you to be a part of it. Even if you’re not gay. Because the thing is, we’re all human. We all have a piece of the Sacred Feminine in us, whether we explore it or not.

Community is about engaging with energy. Energy that plays well with others.

This post is written as Day 7 of Reverb 10, inspired and created by Gwen Bell (Best of ’09) and her rockingly awesome cohorts. Are you reverbing too? I’d love for you to share yourself in the comments below.

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Kathyloh December.9.2010 at 1.14 am

Happy to have found you by way of best09 as well. Really enjoyed this reflection/celebration of that community of amazing women.

I love what you stand for and I see you leading that community, leading the way, as much as being a member (and yes leaders are members) So no, it’s not about standing out (as you say) as it is about receiving and answering the call.

MDTaz December.10.2010 at 12.36 am

Happy to found you via #reverb10 and will look for your voice again, identifiable by its clarity.

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