OOPS. And How To Fix It.

by Dian Reid-Jancic· Follow Dian on

A few days ago I wrote a post on the opposite of SMART goals, TRAMS goals. And then I got to thinking about some things I might have left out of that post. Like being flexible. And starting slow. And OOPS. Let’s start with OOPS, shall we?

Tips on overcoming Over Optimistic Planning Syndrome - OOPS

OOPS: Over Optimistic Planning Syndrome. You know, where you get all excited about your goals and your motivation, and this time you’re really going to do it!! Your motivation is in tact, and you’re raring to go! You’re moving, you’re shaking, you’re DOing, yeah!! Then a couple of weeks go by and you’ve lost some steam. Instead of hitting the gym 4x this week, it’s only 3. And that last workout was just “eh” because your friend at work got a new job, and while you’re happy to see her grow, you’ll still miss her in your daily work-world. The kids [forgot to tell you that soccer season is around the corner, and no, they can’t just use last year’s gear] or whatever other new thing that popped up, calling your attention away from your goal. A couple more weeks go by, and you barely made it to the gym once, and you’re tired and frustrated with yourself because you’ve done it once again, and now you’ve failed at another attempt at being consistent with working out, or reading a chapter a week or a book a month or [fill in the blank for whatever you’ve “failed” at “again”].

Flexibility. This is what allows you to change things up while still moving you towards your goal. Don’t get hung up in the details, get hung up in committing to your growth. When you succumb to OOPS, you’re in an all-or-nothing state of mind. If your original goal was to get to the gym 4x a week and you’re falling short of that, it’s time to take another look at your TRAMS goal and see where the disconnect is. Maybe when you put your goal down on paper, a few things slipped your mind like forgetful kids or your parents coming to town or an unplanned business trip. Whatever the case, the first step to getting back on track is to give yourself some grace. Give yourself permission to change the details of your goal to fit your life and all that’s important to you in it. Rather than looking at yourself as a failure, acknowledge yourself for the times you did do something towards your goal. That, my friends, is what we call: progress!

Starting Slow. There’s a reason that marathoners pace themselves: if you spend all your energy out of the gate, you’ll have nothing left for the finish. Take a similar approach to your life, your goals, and you’ll be on your way to being exactly who you’re envisioning on your vision board (*fun how-to on vision boards coming soon, in case you don’t already have one*—but don’t wait for me!).  Since I’ve brought up marathoners, I recently learned that you don’t just up and run a marathon: you have to train for it. And if you’ve never run a marathon before, you can’t just expect to run one in under 5 hours without some rigorous training. It takes some lead-up and practice—you don’t just go from running nonce a week and no miles to running four times a week and 20-30 miles.

So when you have big dreams for yourself (as you should!) keep in mind that you may need to slowly build up to what’s in your mind. You’ll need to keep yourself healthy, both physically and mentally, which means taking care of your body and your mind. Don’t be afraid to ask for support, but ultimately do your due for only you.

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