Those feelings don’t just go away because you choose to ignore them in any given moment.
Just like you when you’re trying to be heard, feelings don’t like being ignored.
When your feelings feel ignored, they act out.
And when they act out, you have a choice to hold them and hug them and feel them and make room for them and let them get processed, or to create a compounding and vicious cycle by ignoring them some more.
When you make room for just the feelings that feel good, even the feelings that feel good start to become numb.
Every second Saturday I run a grief support group at The Center in Long Beach. Sometimes two people show up, sometimes twenty. This past weekend we had somewhere between two and twenty; some new, some veterans; all with the same goal to identify the answer to the following question:
Who the hell am I now that ____________ is gone?Read on →
The ultimate value of life depends upon awareness and the power of contemplation rather than upon mere survival.
Awareness and the power of contemplation. So much more powerful than mere survival, at least when you get past the whole actually being alive thing. So let’s move past that and talk about awareness, shall we?
I don’t know where I am on my path right now. I feel forward movement, and yet, I feel like I haven’t moved from this spot in years. Like I’m wondering if this movement is real. I can see the landscape rolling past as I look out the window of this moving train, and it all feels like a dream I’m not sure I’m even having.
As a human being, this place is scary because it involves the unknown. As a life coach, this place is scary because I should have everything figured out by now. At least, that’s what my gremlins would have me believe. Read on →