Thursday Thought: Feel All the Feelings!

by Dian Reid-Jancic· Follow Dian on

The walls we build around us to keep sadness out also keeps out the joy.
Jim Rohn

Feel sad. Feel mad. Feel hurt. Feel awful. Feel self-pity. Feel icky. Feel alone.

Feel the feelings. Feel all the feelings.

Those feelings don’t just go away because you choose to ignore them in any given moment.

Just like you when you’re trying to be heard, feelings don’t like being ignored.

When your feelings feel ignored, they act out.

And when they act out, you have a choice to hold them and hug them and feel them and make room for them and let them get processed, or to create a compounding and vicious cycle by ignoring them some more.

When you make room for just the feelings that feel good, even the feelings that feel good start to become numb.

And when your feelings are numb, so are you.

And that’s no way to live.

Thursday Thought: Meditation

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Whether you’re keeping a journal or writing as a meditation, it’s the same thing. What’s important is you’re having a relationship with your mind. 
Natalie Goldberg

Meditation is personal. Don’t let anyone tell you how to do it “right.”

Write it. Think it. Silence it. Sit it. Stand it. Dance it.

However you’re doing, it’s right. Even if you feel like it’s not.

It’s all data.

Keep at it.

Keep building that relationship.

Thursday Thought: Got Big Dreams?

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“If people aren’t laughing at your dreams, your dreams aren’t big enough.”—Grayson Marshall

BULLSHIT.

Get outside of your comfort zone, not anyone else’s.

The thing is, what may seem small to someone else might be HUGE to you.

When it comes to advice about your dreams, you know when you’re kidding yourself about those dreams being big enough.

Look, I get the sentiment behind the quote. You can always go bigger than anyone thinks you can, especially you.

Don’t get caught up in sweeping generalizations that keep you from going after your dreams. Even if no one is laughing at them. Especially if no one is laughing at them.

Creating a New Normal

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Every second Saturday I run a grief support group at The Center in Long Beach. Sometimes two people show up, sometimes twenty. This past weekend we had somewhere between two and twenty; some new, some veterans; all with the same goal to identify the answer to the following question:

Who the hell am I now that ____________ is gone? Read on →

The ultimate value of life depends upon awareness and the power of contemplation rather than upon mere survival.

~ Aristotle

Awareness and the power of contemplation. So much more powerful than mere survival, at least when you get past the whole actually being alive thing. So let’s move past that and talk about awareness, shall we?

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Why I Shut the F*** Up When I’m Coaching

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I don’t know where I am on my path right now. I feel forward movement, and yet, I feel like I haven’t moved from this spot in years. Like I’m wondering if this movement is real. I can see the landscape rolling past as I look out the window of this moving train, and it all feels like a dream I’m not sure I’m even having.

As a human being, this place is scary because it involves the unknown. As a life coach, this place is scary because I should have everything figured out by now. At least, that’s what my gremlins would have me believe.  Read on →

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